Posts Tagged 'positivity'

The Darkness

Just finished reading the Tale of Despereaux with my children. I was struck (who can avoid it with the point being bludgeoned over the head of the dear reader) by the necessity of the story. How often do we have our own struggle for with darkness so starkly revealed? Is this not why we are so crazy for Star Wars and Super Heroes (among other reasons)?

We know that negativity, bad memories, negative experiences, fear and hate to be more powerful in our brains. Yet, science also teaches us that positivity and happiness are more powerful. This is why tools like taking in the good and holding on to our good experiences just a few seconds longer, are life changers.

Today I saw a woman who literally, spent her whole shopping trip berating her child and the people shopping with her. Making everything out to be their fault and just making the experience an overall painful time for anyone near them. The cherry on top of her hateful day, was cursing at an employee who came over to help with a scanning problem. This woman is a prime example of someone who deserves our empathy, but who also clearly need to desperately work on her struggle with the darkness inside.

The employee she yelled and cursed at, appears to fall on the other side of this line of human interaction. After being cursed at, she not only continued to go about her job, she did it with a smile on her face.

So dear reader, I ask you, which of these human beings would you rather be on any given day? And if the answer is the latter, what are you doing about it? Are you working to keep the darkness that exists at bay? To not allow new darkness and hate inside? And to try and replace all that negativity with strong memories of love, happiness and good?

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Positive Filterpreting

It’s been pointed several times recently, and rightly so, that most of my posts about filterpreting are negative or based on negative aspects of life. In recognition of the fact that there are many positive aspects to filterpreting I plan on bringing at least positive post a week.

Last week a high school classmate posted this on FB.  “I was trying to decide whether or not to go for a run tonight…and then I came across this piece I wrote almost 11 years ago: http://chewthekudzu.wordpress.com/2014/08/22/a-chapter-of-my-life/  (FYI, if you don’t know me the context may catch you off-guard, but the kernel is all-encompassing).

…I’m going for a run.   :-)”

This wonderful human ability to see the best even in the darkest situations is part of what makes us special! Nealie’s filterpreting was a must to move on and make the best of what life had dished out. Not only has she made the best of that situation, she is living her life to the fullest! When we pass information through our personally created filters and simultaneously interpret the data based on these same self-created standards, we choose what type of person we are and will become. Are We hateful? Are We Happy? Do we make each day count?

Positivity is a key differentiator in how people filterpret their environment. I think it’s the most important!


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